Struggling with No Contact? Don’t think you’ll make it? Just DYING to talk to your ex? Here’s some tips I wanted to share so you can survive some of the hardest times of your life!
Part 1:
Part 2:
Follow up video from Part 1. There were a few more questions I wanted to address such as:
- Finally put to rest how long to wait before contacting your ex again!
- What to do if your Ex is the one to initiate contact?
- What if you and your ex are still in contact? Is going no contact such a great idea?
Your Quickie For The Day:
The No Contact Challenge!
The NC Challenge is all about challenging yourself to do the unthinkable!
So here’s what you need to do. Think of the LONGEST period of No Contact you have currently been in to this date with your ex partner. Now add a week to that. This is your NEW No Contact days to beat! So if your longest days of No Contact is 14 days, then you need go 21 days without contacting your ex!
- Enter the NC Challenge by posting what your secret “number” is (days of longest No Contact to date)
- Enter in your Journal this number and see if you can beat it! Write about your progress as you go!
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I cheated on my ex, more than once. Yes I regret it dearly. In February I ended things thinking I didn’t want her. Well, fact of the matter is I was wrong and want her more than ever. We’ve been together 5 years off and on and she’s now saying she’s going to move out of state Aug 1st. She contacts me daily via text. Do I maintain this contact, or initiate NC? She says it’s over for good, she won’t give me another chance, and doesn’t want “us.”
HELP PLEASE!!!
Hey
I broke up with my boyfriend after about 2 months with him. He stopped messaging me then left a reference to a song on his twitter which I know was directed at me. Said “I’m going to watch you suffer, because you need me, I don’t need you”.
Anyway, I told him via text that I am happy without him in my life to make it clear that i don’t need him. However I have come to realise that I do want him in my life.
I only broke up with him last Tuesday 1st May. I have and are continuing to make changes to myself and believe in myself. When would you recommend to send the seed letter, and if he replies, should I reply back?
Your help would be much appreciated.
kind regards
Rob
its obvious that your ex is still hurt and its best to keep your distance to give your ex a breather. send the seed letter when you’re emotions are more under control, that is when you can handle whatever reply your ex will send you.
So he’s met up with some guy today and got in to a relationship with him, just a week and a half after I broke up with him. A rebound i’m guessing?
Is it best to wait for it to fade or to just wait until some time has passed? I would guess he is looking for a reaction, so if I send the seed letter now, he will have gotten a reaction from me about his recent relationship..
No contact is the hardest thing to do on the planet.. I have been in no contact for 31 days now.. 2 weeks ago I did text him how are u and he texted me back Not bad how are you!! I wished I didn’t… All I keep telling myself now is I DON’T WANT A GUY THAT DOESN’T WANT ME OR THAT DOESNT THINK I’M THE MOST AMAZIEST PERSON IN THE WORLD!!
OVER AND OVER !!!! a million times a day!! Cause after awhile You will start to believe it:)
hi ashley, i did the NC with my ex for 2 weeks and he did came back but he said he doesn’t want to be in a relationship yet with me and it makes me sad, so at times i tend to blame and accuse him of cheating on me and likes being single that is why he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with me…i guess i pushed his limit…go overboard and now, he once again ignore me ): so i’m in that phase again…lost…crying… and feeling sorry for myself ): will NC helps for the third time? ))): i love him so much! pls help me because now, i just don’t know what to do and i’m scared that this time he won’t comeback even if i give him the NC ): reply me please, i need ur advice.
Ashley, today is day 28 of NC. Still nothing. We last spoke march 22nd he called me to tell me be got the phone I sent him even though I said txt me when you get it. Anyway I kept the conversation short like 10mins otherwise we would kept talking. Then I started NC. What do you think? Please reply II NEED HELP!
Wendy
Hi ashley,
Ive been in no contact with my ex girlfriend for 14 days. Ive been doing really well and I just signed a minor league baseball contract 3 days after she broke up with me. Is it okay to send the letter now? and should i add that notation about baseball?
or do i send an apology letter first and then a seed letter?
How do I know if my ex is moved on? He said he wants to explore a serious relationship with someone he knows for some time. It was not serious before but now he wants to be serious. He is 36. We are in different cities. We lost the sparks. Can I ever regain it if she is not right for him?
Ashley,
I am in a long distance relationship. After 9 months I took my children to meet him in Canada (I live in the states). Things went well and we all appeared to be happy it wasn’t until I left and got back home that I noticed that he started pulling away. This continued the 24th of February when he said that “I think I need to focus more on my company right now”. But then a few days later he turned around and said he “got scared” and asked for a “break”. ” I sent him a message saying that “I just want you to know I’m going to stop contacting with you for a while. It’s not because I’ve moved on or because I don’t have feelings for you anymore, because I do. It’s just not fair on either of us, and we both need space from each other”. He replied by saying that “ok but if something happens please let me know thanks for this ash I appreciate it” and “I care about you alot”. So I replied by saying that “Thanks for the concern. But I was serious when I said I needed space from you. Perhaps we can talk in a few weeks, but not right now. I hope that ok with you”. The last thing that he said was “that’s cool with me”. The problem that I am having is that I am not sure when to send the seed letter. I know that I am in control of my emotions ( I can think about him not get up set, but the main thing is that I don’t really think about him every day and function just fine) Since that conversation took place on the 9 of march should I wait until mid April?
I am really confused at this point on what to do next.
my first time on this website i tryed non cntact time 4 2 weeks but it didint.. work … he hasnt responded heeelp
How does the no contact work if you work together?
instead of nc you can implement LC especially if you do a lot of transactions together.
hi iv sent u an email if u can have a look asap please
hi,
can you re-send it back to help@exrecoverysystem.com, just to make sure. thanks
Hello, I was forced into NC December 21st 2011.
My boyfriend and I were together 8 years, he is 26 and I am 24. We had a fantastic relationship for 5 years and then our sex life disappeared (laziness and work schedules) and we both cheated on each other. We broke up and after a month or so got back together and were together for 3 years from that point. Over the last 2 years we stopped having sex completely because I wanted him to make time to be alone with me. We spent alllll of our time with our mutual group of friends, doing fun things, but never had time to be alone and connect with each other. I would bring up how I wanted him to make timeto be alone and then we could have sex. He’d say all of the right things but then we’d continue in the same way. I eventually began hanging out with other people and ended up cheating on my bf. It was nice to have a guy who made time for me but I felt so guilty and knew I would have given anything for my ex, John, to have made time for me and to be with him. John and I would talk about marriage, his family is closer to me than my own. Ive gone on family vacations, taken family photos, etc. I miss him and all of them.
Even though, we broke up in July once he found out I cheated, we still talked every single day and were going to lunch once a week just the two of us. Things seemed to be slowly rekindling between us and getting better. I then went to Germany for 2 months to teach English and while I was there, I talked to my ex often. He told me he started hanging out with a girl but it was just friends because she is only 20 years old and a serious stoner (he has never smoked in his life and has always been very against it). I believed him, and once I came home he went to lunch with me and I apologized for everything and wrote him a letter explaining that I feel there is something special between us that can’t be found elsewhere. I told him that I’d give anything to prove to him I deserve another chance and that WE are worth it. He told me he was completely over it and that he enjoys spending time with this new girl. A few weeks after that, I got really drunk on a girls night and ended up calling my ex in the middle of the night. I had heard through my friends that night that him and the girl he was seeing were serious and this upset me after all of the trash he talked on her. So I called him and asked him why he talked trash on her yet is spending all this time with her and making time for her to be alone etc. when thats ALL I ever wanted from him. He just kept agreeing with everything I was saying and then I asked him at the end of the convo if we could have a more mature talk about the situation when I am sober and at a better time. He agreed.
The next morning I felt bad for calling like I did so I sent a Facebook message to him apologizing for the timing and such of what I said and he said it was too late because his new girl was with himm and heard the entire conversation. He then told me to never talk to him again. I later found out (through a mutual friend) that the next day his new girl told him she was done with him if he still talked to me. He blocked me from Facebook and my phone number from his phone then and 2 days later it was official that he is in a relationship with her. He has also made statuses about being happy with her and tagged pictures of them together and happy.
It has been a little over a month and I sent the seed letter about 3 weeks ago (after 2 weeks of full NC). I did get a response from him, he just asked how my car is (he loves my car) and I responded it is good and that I am doing well also. He sent me an email a week or so later asking why he is hearing from some old friends that I lied to him about something in the past (which isn’t true) and I responded back telling him the truth and that I am not sure why people are still talking about me. He never responded (sent it over a week ago). I have also began sending him checks every time I get a paycheck (every 2 weeks) because I owe him money he loaned me to pay for college years back. He did send me an email a week ago saying thanks for the check and he is keeping a log and he appreciates it.
I am lost at what to do now?
I know he is with this new girl and his friends are supportive because she is NOT me. She is significantly younger than him and a serious stoner which surprises me that he’d even be with her, although I am just jealous. He even left her flowers on her car one day while she was at work (I am told all of these things through a mutual friend). I miss when he put that effort into me and our relationship. If he would have made time to be alone with me, we would probably be engaged right now. I also feel that this new girl has the upper hand on me because they’re having sex which to him is great because he hasn’t had sex in 2 years, and the last time he had sex with me was 2 years ago even though we hung out just about everyday and kissed and cuddled. WE also told each other I love you every single night before we went to bed for 8 years, NO MATTER WHAT. It has been extremely hard on me to not only lose him as my best friend and boyfriend, but all of my other friends and his family. I still keep in contact with his sister and have lunch with her about once a week.
I am just not sure where to go from here? Continue NC strictly until he contacts me? Or will the longer he is with this girl be worse- hell become more comfortable and grow to like her more and more. :-/
Please HELP.
P.s. His birthday is coming up this Saturday and I am not sure if I should send a card with the normal check I would send him for the loan repayment?
Hi,
I think my situation is a bit similar to yours…the difference is I met my ex when I was 25 and he was 28 and had been in a long distance relationship for years. Now I am 32 and he just turned 36. I cheated on him first and I have carried that gilt for years..and finally in Jan 2011 he cheated on me out of spite and also b/c our sex life was not great and I kept avoiding it…2 weeks ago we officially broke up bc he is seeing someone and he wants to explore a serious relationship with her. He didn’t have guts to tell me on the phone though. He didnt want to have any contact for a while and after I heard what he wanted to say….my heart was broken and didn’t contact him since then. I just didnt want to…bc I think I am responsible for a lot of things even though he also did not end this in a responsible way and he has his own emotional issues (being needy for love etc). I dont know about your previous relationship…If you think he is a keeper and really cared a lot about you and you have experienced some meaningful life events together, then maybe just focus on yourself right now. My ex did want to marry me but I was not ready so unconsciously I pushed him away. What can say and do now? I can just hope that girl is not what he is looking for or cant match up with him.
Your ex’s new gf is still young…things may change…just dont know who long it will take…in my case…I dont really see much hope just bc of the life stage.
My situation is more complicated.. We live together, and can’t move out before it’s been three months, cuz of the tenancy agreement.. We get along great, he is “happy” all the time..at first I was crying a lot and blamed him for leaving me and stuff.. Now I’m making myself to NOT CARE at all! It’s kind of working – but it’s also hard to keep doing without a “follow-up” if you know what I mean..
How do I do this “no contact” when we are living together still????
hi Ashley
Heres my story so far!I was going out with my girlfriend for a year and a half till we broke up 3.5 months ago.We broke up because I cheated on her 3times at the start and I lied to her about the whole way through our relationship then told her and thats why we broke up.In the past 3 months or so I have given her space and we have talked alot on the phone and only met up once which was last weekend.I know she would like us to have a relationship again but friends family are telling her to keep well away from me and I understand that they have seen how hurt she was and they dont want to see her like that again and nor do I.I really dont know where to go from here as iv only just discovered your program.Im also thinking about leaving the country for a new job as i feel if i stay here il only drive her away even more am i being stupid.Id love to spend the rest of my life with her but i just dont know what to do for the best!!
Hi Ashley, i am 18 and my ex girlfriend is 17. Well, the way my ex and i broke up was because she became emotionally interested in someone else around the beginning of October.. It just came out of no where when i least expected it. The other problem im dealing with is that it was also a long distance relationship.. Anyway, when i found out she was dating this guy behind my back, i was the one who broke it off with her.. It just seems so weird because she instantly became REALLY infatuated with this guy although his appearance isn’t that great. She told me that she couldn’t help how much she started to like this guy and that since we live far and her mom doesn’t approve of me that its just not going to work out.. I know that he has a lot of the same traits that i have that she fell in love with. But i don’t know what to do to compete with this guy and get her interested in me again. Moving on, i started no contact right off the bat with a few minor mistakes, but around November 7th i noticed on the facebook news feed that she had gotten in a relationship with this guy. i still didn’t say anything, but still soon after she started posting pictures of him and her with the biggest smile on her face like she’s never been happier. she has initiated contact with me here and there and i always remain cool and unmoved by how she flaunts her and this other guy. i always end the conversations, my emotions are under control, i go out and do things and she’s aware of this, i posted a pic of me without my shirt on because i am very muscular and cut and she mentioned that she saw it, although i did not flaunt it. my birthday recently came up and everyone said happy birthday but her. However, a few days later she messaged me saying she was sorry for being late and wished me a happy birthday and started up another conversation with me. i would only reply to her once a day and so far it looks like she’s kind of starting to chase me again. I know what really made our relationship fail was the loss of that spark. i would only see her once or twice a month and i think this is the reason why she lost interest, not necessarily anything on my part. but my question to you is, do i have a chance with her still? And is her new relationship the real thing or just a rebound? Oh and on that note, she left someone else for me when we got together and she acted the same way (infatuated) with me. but that was when we first got together a year ago. we broke up because of distance then but got back together last august, then she left me for someone else -.- but I KNOW we really did have true feelings for eachother.. we’ve known eachother for years…
Hi Ashley,
Here is my story. My girl of 2.5 years broke it off with me almost 3 weeks ago now, the reasons were
# I was working interstate and she came with and left her job/friends and family behind – all for me.
# I was under so much stress at work that I forgot to have fun with her as I was focused on my career and not my relationship – stupidly
# I was supposed to be on a 12 month contract but I could not give an end date (she asked me for six months) as I did not want to disappoint my employer. This caused her to move back home and was still waiting for a date for me to come back.
# I didnt give her a date as I thought we would be fine doing long distance – it was not so.
# I have not had much to do with her friends as she is from the country and it was hard to do so – this is all she wanted, she wanted me to be friends with hers as she was with mine.
We have such a strong bond that I thought this would never happen, we were best friends and got on like a house on fire. It was strange, we were a calming influence on each other and bought the best out of each other. We never had fights, never cheated and never complained of each other at all.
This is why I thought it would never happen.
Basicly she trusted me like no other and it appears over time she has lost her trust in me causing this outcome. My problem is we still think so highly of each other it really makes me sad to know that I could not let go and trust her as she wanted me to.
I did no contact for 3 weeks and emailed her on the weekend thanking her for all she did and said I understood ect….I stated I was going through personal growth ect and I thanked her so much. She then responded and stated she so lucky to know me so well and I tought her so much and said I deserve the best ect… she said she was thinking about sending me an email just as she recieved mine and at the end of it said would be “very nice” to chat sometime. She called me the night of the email and below are positives and negatives
# I appeared happy and she believed it
# She appeared happy and inside I hated it but made it known I was happy for her.
# I teased her a little bit
# I flirted a little
# We spoke for an hour and I said I would end the call first and she quickly said “no I’m ending it” but I won as she was a little wierd and seemed sad and unsure ect and said she didnt want/know what to say
# She asked when I was moving home and I told her christmas and how I was going to have a super fun summer ect….
# She said she had been asked out to hogs breath for dinner but told him no and seemed disgusted by it. (we used to eat out at nice places all the time)
# She did hint I would have other girls to seek – I think this was a test and I didnt mention anything and sort of brushed it off and didnt directly answer ect. This hurt me a little but I guess it is a way for her to prepare herself for me to move on which hurts even more! aahhh!!
# She called me from a hotel and she was there by herself, I joked and said no wonder you phoned me as you must have been bored. She said by way of text she “did not phone because she was bored, she did it for privacy” I said it came out wrong and I knew she didnt call for that reason.
I know we are right together and have the balls to play the game of getting her back as I feel i threw it all away.
She is a trusting good country girl and I believe her good nature will see me be able to get her back.
The only thing is she is very busy atm doing all the things with her friends that she wanted to do with me. She is having a blast and has so many people around her that it is going to be hard to break through as when I move back we will still be 4hrs drive apart!
I believe I need to give her space and tease her a little as if she is missing out on having fun with me. I thank you for all your videos helping me understand what and why.
I hope I am on the right track.
Any feedback would be greatly appreciated,
Thanks!
Hey Ashley,
So me and my ex have been broken up for almost 2 months now. Lately he has been asking me if I want to take the dog we had to the dog park together so we can caught up. I am the one who ended up keeping the dog and he always tells me how he misses him. Well every time we have a day planned he ends up backing out cause he is busy. I just say ok and leave it at that. I don’t want him to think I am disappointed even though I am cause I want get the chance to hangout so we can rekindle that spark. He is also seeing someone else. His mom said its not serious, but I know he spends almost every day with her. Me and my ex work at the same place, we don’t talk there but do say hi when we see each other. Do you have any advice? I don’t contact him at all. If he tries to get in touch with me I do respond to him, but otherwise I am never the one getting in touch with him.
My ex texts me almost everyday shes always the one initiating contact. I take my time responding but im unsure if im really getting anywhere. Shes very needy so im just a little worried about lowering how much we talk in case she goes to another. We have alot of memories and she was very loyal in our relationship(so was I) so im wondering if it would just be a better idea to do the push and pull and throw in some flirting?
What do you do when your ex initiates contact after the no contact stage?
Details: My ex and I broke up a month ago and we’ve been in no contact for three weeks. I’ve been social and fun and have made great progress, and I know he sees that through Facebook; people tagging me in pictures from parties, people he doesn’t know writing all over my wall, etc. He contacted me via text message tonight and just said hello, so I waited about twenty minutes and said hello back. Then there were maybe six more texts between us (just small talk) for the next fifteen or so minutes, and I wasn’t very eager to respond to his messages although his responses to mine were pretty quick (which is highly unusual for him), and I ended the conversation by telling him I was going to bed because I was exhausted and said good night. I really wasn’t sure at all what to do when he contacted me because I wasn’t expecting it at all, so I just improvised and I really hope I did the right thing.
My gf broke up with me almost a year ago. There has been some up and downs throughout the year. I’m on NC right with her. I know before she checks my FB constantly, I’m pretty sure she still does. How long should I wait, will I still get a chance?
Ashley, my ex has been contacting me everyday and I have ignored his phone calls and then call him back when I am ready to talk. He always says we need to sit down and talk but we really never do. He has also been contacting me to ask about his appointments I use to keep track of which I feel is ridiculous that since he broke up the relationship that he thinks I’m going to be his secretary. He told me if I needed anything to let him know, but then he dissapears. I sent him a text telling him that until he is ready to trust that I will not hurt him like I did than please don’t contact me because I am trying to move on and I said that I have tried to remain friends even though our relationship is over. I think I sent the wrong things. I am confused. I almost wish he wasn’t contacting me at all because like you said I fall into the “trap”. What do I do Ashley?
I am in a long distance relationship and messed up no contact for 2 weeks in a row. She wanted 30 days to herself and she said there was hope if I left her alone during that time. I did not manage to do it and she said I was insecure and have to work on my issues and trust her. She said now she doesn’t know if she wants to be with me at all and is currently out pursuing other men now according to her brother. Is it too late to keep the no contact rule going? We been together for 5 years, 7 months. I broke up with her and upset her though and apologized but the next day she did not want to get back together. I was going through a rough time in my life while trying to move.
Oh yes she also said I had to be more confident in myself too.
I broke off with my girlfriend/fiance on August 19, 2011 – the second week I realized that I was terribly wrong and acted because I was mad about her not talking to me for weeks when she would get mad at me.
The second week after I broke it off, I tried to call her three time and emailed her once. During the third week, I mailed he a seed letter. During the fourth week, I went to the counsler her and I were seeing. Halfway through the counseling session, a knock on the door, the counserlor answered the door to discover it was my ex-girlfriend, she asked to come in.
She insisted on talking, during this time she basically wripped me up for how I broke-up with her. She said she never wants me to email, call, or come to her home or work. After counseling, we both left together, walked to the elevator (talked the how time in the elevator), and her car was parked next to mine in the parking lot which we walked to the car together. She gave me enough time to go to my trunk of my car to get her ring, she rolled her window down twice as I tried to give her ring back. She refused, I left and I have not heard from her.
If she did not want to talk to me, why did she come to counseling or even talk to me while we made our way to our cars? Why did she park next to my car?
I don’t understand her!
hi ashley m very confued wat to bcs i was in no contact with her adn i send her a letter but some of our common frnds tell her that m still chasing her.
so we had again bad arguments and then again no contact….. but after about 3 weeks i conatacted her and starts begging….:(…during last no contact she was clearly shoing the ienterst in me by watching in ma eyes and trying to amke me jealeous by interacting with a new guy….but i done the mistake…so m again in no contact….plzzzzzzzz Ashley tell me wat to do now….do u still think no contact works?????
Yea it works. Only if you stick to it. Doesn’t work if you keep breaking it.
My ex won’t tell me where he is living and only wants us to contact each other by email or text. How do I send my seed letter?
Use email.
Hi Ashley
I just purchased your ex recovery system (Get him back edition) and have read through the whole workbook. I still have to watch some of the videos.
My question for you is: I have sent the Seed letter in the form of an e-mail to my ex boyfriend and received a reply in less than an hour. Is this good? and should I reply to it? Or do I still not contact him for 3 weeks which is one week more than I have previously not contacted him for.
You help and guidance would be very much appreciated.
Thank you
Rob
Hi All,
Just read through some of the questions to Ashley, and I think this is so helpful. I broke up with my partner of 12.5 yrs, and it has been 2 months since we broke up. We were in contact, and it was really hard for us. So we decided to try to contact each for a month. I was starting to get anxious, depressed, etc. And I happened upon Ashley’s website, I read through the 3 pages of the website, and no joke I felt instantly better, I then signed up last night, and I started the GetHimBack session this morning, and I must say it was super helpful. I really hope this helps me through my breakup, whether we get back or not. I hope this training will make me a stronger person and I can move on. I feel it will! If I stick to it.
Thanks Ashley!!
Marilyn
Hi Ashley,
I was dating a guy(almost 4 months) after my divorced (3 yeasr after),he was always kind and honest, but as well he was going thru divorce and some problems….He said that he felt in love with me and wasnt the right time … after few months I sended the seed letter, i got a response he said that oficially he was divorced! and to keep in touch .. of course he ask me what are the great news…my response??
none… after 2 days I send him a tx saying hi.. but now? what should i do? he just tx when i tx him
has been 6 months after we broke up
Ashley- I am a football official and My Ex who walked away from me always sends me Little Pep Talks via text or FB prior to games. She knows how much officiating means to me. I am starting the no contact now. What do you think about what she is doing. A couple of months ago she told my sister to tell me not to email, text or call her because she would not respond. Now she doesn’t call but she communicates in the previously mentioned ways. She told me that “it is not you but me.” when she broke it off. I asked what the deal was and she said it’s none of your business don’t worry about it. It was a long distance relationship yet we had been discussing marriage and she even brought up kids. What gives? We were together 25 months.
Hey Ashley,
I blew my no contact over the weekend with my ex as I suspected he was seeing someone else. Anyway he admitted that he has a crush on this guy and I ended up going crazy calling and texting him. Have I blown my chances of winning him back? We broke up to months ago, we’ve had on and off contact, he was contacting me for a while, I went away on vacation and when I came back the tables turned and I started chasing again. During the time I was away he met this new guy and said that he has a crush on him, but he will get over it. I want him back, from today onwards I have vowed no contact for the full 30 days. Do I still have a chance since its been 2 months since we broke up?
hi ashley, thanks for the videos, are you suggesting not to use the seed letter then?
in my case its been six days since she was told by her cousin that i will be focusing on myself for a couple of weeks and i haven’t contacted her for 10 days, i am a little confused!! stay in no contact for a month or so and see if she contacts me or use the seed letter?
You should be sending the seed letter after you’ve emotionally healed.. which is usually after a period of no contact. The seed letter is a way to get your ex to contact you without resistance.
thanks ashley
My ex ended things abruptly then contacted me after 2 mos saying: “will u talk to me? I don’t know how to explain, but give me a chance. I have a lot to say, but I don’t know how, never felt like this, but if you don’t that’s ok, I can try to understand your hurt. been trying to come to terms, but I have no answer about how I feel, it is simple, you are amazng, I don’t know how to show you though”
I responded that we should talk and then he disappeared again. It’s only been a few days since I responded asking if still wanted to chat and now nothing so I went back to NC. Any suggestions other than NC? I have begun dating a bit but I still feel that he’s the one I want
Interesting. Nc is working and it sounds like he was “testing” you with that one. I think the next time he tries to do this again (provoke a response and then stop contacting again), just ignore him until he cracks and actually picks up the phone and calls you. Sending a text or email is just too much of the “easy way out”. Phone calls are more confrontational. As for anything else you can do – if you’re saying anything other than no contact as in to contact him? Then no, you should not be contacting him. You already told him you think you should talk, if he chooses to ignore that comment, that’s his problem.
what if she dosent contact me and i dont get to see to her
Hi Ashley,
I just read about the Facebook tips…what if I already deleted my ex 17 days ago, at the start of no contact? I was told by countless other sites to remove him from all social networking sites, so I did that. Also, he couldn’t believe that I would never talk to him again, and I wanted to show him I was serious and not able to settle for friends right now.
I would feel foolish adding him back. What might I do instead? Am I doomed?
Just leave it and stay in NC. You can readd him once you’re back in contact.
hi Ashley,
the last time I had verbal contact with my ex two weeks ago and it was ugly. I texted 2 days later and he never responded.I also called during that time. We do not use facebook so that’s out. What should I do?
hai jinxx….m also w8ing for the ans of ur question??? bcs i hv also done the same mistake..:P and i dont know wat to do..???
hi Ashley
can i still get my ex back if i made a mistake of asking 4 another chance
hi Ashley
can i still get my ex back if i made a mistake of asking 4 another chance and i asked if we could short things out and she said no sorry
hi Ashley
can you make video about what to do when ur friends with ur ex girlfriend and how to get them back plz it would help alot
from anthony D
hi can u let me know asap plz thank u
Sure.
thank u
hi can u email me asap when you’ve made the video plz and my ex talk to me on facebook but i always start talking to her first then she talk to me
Here’s the video.
Also, you need to stop contacting her first if you want this to work for you.
thank you for the video
what if she dosent contact me on facebook
i dont get to see her and were only friends on facebook
Hi
Ashley
Today is my first full day of no contact. Im trying to keep myself busy.
After texting my ex yesterday, I felt a little relieved. That I can now draw my attention to me.
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